Happy New Year!

Posted by M C on Wednesday, January 3, 2018 Under: Emotions


We talk a lot about acceptance AND change in DBT. In order for us to most successfully change long term, we must accept the reality of what we are struggling with.  When you think about those New Year's resolutions, be sure to balance out the changes you are striving for with a dose of acceptance.  Acceptance doesn't mean approval, or that we like the fact that we are overweight, broke or lonely.  It just means that we are able to see objectively what the issues are that we are wanting to change, without a bunch of shame and self hatred.  

I love the way Brene Brown talks about guilt and shame.   "I believe that guilt is adaptive and helpful – it’s holding something we’ve done or failed to do up against our values and feeling psychological discomfort. I define shame as the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging – something we’ve experienced, done, or failed to do makes us unworthy of connection. I don’t believe shame is helpful or productive. In fact, I think shame is much more likely to be the source of destructive, hurtful behavior than the solution or cure."

We all feel both guilt and shame, and learning to differentiate between the two is crucial.  

If you, or someone you know, is looking for proven strategies and skills to FEEL BETTER, have better relationships, be able to cope in healthier ways, and to regulate strong emotions, I am accepting both individual and group clients right now.  I am starting a WOMEN'S DBT Group next Tuesday, 1/9/18 from 11-12:30, and have a couple spots open.  Call or email if you are interested in joining, or if you'd like to start individual DBT therapy.  I'd love to be part of your 2018 plan to make this year wonderful!  

My email is austindbt at yahoo.com and phone is (512) 680-0425.

© 2018 Candace Smith

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Happy New Year!

Posted by M C on Wednesday, January 3, 2018 Under: Emotions


We talk a lot about acceptance AND change in DBT. In order for us to most successfully change long term, we must accept the reality of what we are struggling with.  When you think about those New Year's resolutions, be sure to balance out the changes you are striving for with a dose of acceptance.  Acceptance doesn't mean approval, or that we like the fact that we are overweight, broke or lonely.  It just means that we are able to see objectively what the issues are that we are wanting to change, without a bunch of shame and self hatred.  

I love the way Brene Brown talks about guilt and shame.   "I believe that guilt is adaptive and helpful – it’s holding something we’ve done or failed to do up against our values and feeling psychological discomfort. I define shame as the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging – something we’ve experienced, done, or failed to do makes us unworthy of connection. I don’t believe shame is helpful or productive. In fact, I think shame is much more likely to be the source of destructive, hurtful behavior than the solution or cure."

We all feel both guilt and shame, and learning to differentiate between the two is crucial.  

If you, or someone you know, is looking for proven strategies and skills to FEEL BETTER, have better relationships, be able to cope in healthier ways, and to regulate strong emotions, I am accepting both individual and group clients right now.  I am starting a WOMEN'S DBT Group next Tuesday, 1/9/18 from 11-12:30, and have a couple spots open.  Call or email if you are interested in joining, or if you'd like to start individual DBT therapy.  I'd love to be part of your 2018 plan to make this year wonderful!  

My email is austindbt at yahoo.com and phone is (512) 680-0425.

© 2018 Candace Smith

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WANT TO USE THIS ARTICLE IN YOUR EZINE OR WEB SITE? You can, as long as you include this complete blurb with it: “Candace Smith, an Austin-based DBT psychotherapist provides adolescents and adults with specialized skills training and therapy so they are able to manage their emotions and cope in all types of emotional situations."

In : Emotions 


Tags: guilt and shame  dbt therapy  women's dbt group